Should I break up with my girlfriend?

Should I break up with my girlfriend?

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com
Should I break up with my girlfriend? We are both sophomores in college we met midway through our freshman year and have been dating for about two years. The reason why I am asking the question “should I break up with my girlfriend?” might make me seem like a total jerk, but I feel like I need to ask anyway. My girlfriend is great, she's very nice, we have fun together and we hardly ever get in fights. But the fact of the matter is I'm pretty bored. Everybody is out having a good time and there is always tension when we go to parties because we are each worried about the other person. I don't know, I just thought college might be better spent exploring new things and meeting different people, I just feel like I'm playing “house” here. So what should I do? Should I break up with my girlfriend, or not waste a good thing and stay together.

- Mike

Dear Mike,

Thank you for the question “should I break up with my girlfriend” I think in your case especially if you are asking the question, it may be best to break up or take a step back. You are right on track with your thought that college is more about learning than keeping a steady girlfriend. You have a lot of developing in life to do, and the fact of the matter is you're probably not going to be the same person even just a few years out of college that you are today. You are probably bored with your girlfriend because you want to get out there and learn what makes you tick. Don't spend these four (or five, or six) years grinding it out with the same old boring girl only to find yourself breaking up with her after you graduate or worse getting married because it seems like the right thing to do and then getting a divorce soon thereafter.

Again, if you are asking the question “should I break up with my girlfriend?"You probably already know what the answer is. If you are looking for me to make you feel better about potentially breaking her heart, I say, be gentle but move on. The last thing you want to do is be bored in college they'll be plenty of time they'll be plenty of time for that later on in life. Plus this is your time to PARTY! not play house!

Good luck at the beer pong tournament.
-A.

How to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder.

"How to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder."


Dear Aden ask@askaden.com


I noticed your site gives relationship advice; I'm hoping maybe you or one of your readers can help me with advice on how to break up with someone who has borderline personality disorder. I am currently in gauge to a woman who seems to have borderline personality disorder. Do you know anything about borderline personality disorder? Sometimes I feel like my life is a living hell and I wonder why I am with her, but I am always afraid of what will happen if I decide to break up. I know you don't know a lot about my story but I'm wondering if you can publish my post in case anyone out there has gone through a borderline personality disorder breakup and survived. I'm trying to find out how to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder.
Keith



Dear Keith,

How to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder - I'm sure survivors of a borderline personality disorder relationship can probably give you great advice on how to break up with someone who has borderline personality disorder. My advice is fairly simple and straightforward but in order for it to work you have to follow it to a T. no matter how painful it may be. Quite possibly the most dangerous relationship a man can be in is with a woman with borderline personality disorder, in my opinion borderline personality disorder can be far more dangerous in women than in men. The reason is most any man with borderline personality disorder would be ostracized by society if they constantly had the violent outbursts that BPD causes. If a woman complains that the man in her life is yelling screaming and constantly hitting her immediately alarms go off, most likely the police are called and there is a support system in place to get the woman away from the BPD male. When the shoe is placed on the other foot however, the borderline personality disorder female is often easily mistaken for the victim. It is far more easy for a BPD female to hide their behavior in many men are often too embarrassed or confused to let others know the real abuse they are going through. Worst of all, if the police are called, you can bet that in most cases the BPD female will have a prefabricated story in the male victim will be on his way to jail for abuse. Here is my advice on how to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder, get out and don't look back. Typically a woman with borderline personality disorder greatest fear is abandonment. However the only effective way to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder is to do just that completely abandon them and don't look back. Leave the relationship, do not try and talk it out, do not go to counseling, do not give family, friends or clergy involved in trying to sort through your relationship and save it. The fact of the matter is you need to get out while you can and save yourself. I know I probably sound extremely harsh right now but this is the only way to effectively break up with someone with borderline personality disorder. Once you manage to stay away long enough, they will go in the martyr mode and find a new victim, but you must always remember to keep your distance and if at all possible have zero future communication. There are many forms of mental illness that can be worked through and with love and support the suffer and their spouse can have a meaningful relationship in my opinion this is not the case with borderline personality disorder. If you feel guilty about your decision to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder, trust me the more time you spend in the “healthy” world the more you realize that you saved your own life. I understand what you're going through and how hard it may seem right now to think about how to break up with someone with borderline personality disorder and the feelings of guilt that you have with the idea of abandoning them. You need to realize that you are the victim, and just because our society offers little or no support for abused men does not mean that you have to continue to endure abuse. So my advice to you Keith, is to figure out the best way to separate if you are living together you will either need to move or change the locks but make sure whatever you do is swift, complete and final, that's how you break up with someone with borderline personality disorder.

http://www.bpdsecrets.com/


-A.

Dating Advice for Men by Women

I am proud to offer a new feature to Ask Aden advice! Heather from Heather Obsessed is here to help you! Heather now offers:

Dating Advice for Men by Women

Over the last few months many guys have written in to the blog asking for dating advice for men by women. I guess the best thing to say is “it takes one to know one” therefore starting today you can now write in and request dating advice for men by women and your questions will be answered by the one and only Heather from http://www.heatherobsessed.com. If anyone is an expert on dating advice for men by women, it's Heather. Heather is a model, style expert, fashion designer and all around indispensable wealth of knowledge on dating advice for men.

So if you're a guy and you are looking for a super hot supersmart wing woman to help answer any dating advice for men by women questions you may have. Send your questions in two ask@askaden.com and let us know that you would like your question to be forwarded to Heather. She's here, she's hot and she will shoot you straight on what you should do when it comes to dating women.

I look forward to passing Heather your questions and I'm excited that we now offer dating advice for men by women.

So send in those dating questions to Heather and give your self an unfair advantage with the woman, women or hopeful prospects you have your eye on!

All the best,

-A.

Has anyone seen cell phone spyware work? // General Discussion // BlogCatalog

Has anyone seen cell phone spyware work? // General Discussion // BlogCatalog

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How do I know if my phone has spyware on it?

How do I know if my phone has spyware on it?

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

My office girl stole over $200k, she used spyware to collect data on me as well as know where I was at all times. We are going to court, but how do I look at my bills to show that I had spyware on my phone? How do I look at the bills and have an understanding of what other "listening" phone was being used to gather the data?

- John


Dear John,

I am sorry to hear about what happened with your employee. It is scary to think that somebody that could work for you could do such damage using cell phone spyware. I think the main question you're asking is “how do I know if my phone has spyware on it”.

As far as I know one of the only ways to answer the question “How do I know if my phone has spyware on it?” or to tell if your phone has spyware on it via your bills or monthly statements is to look at your text message or MMS activity. Typically cell phone spyware products use SMS and MMS text messages to send data to the person spying on you. Check your statement and look at how many text messages were sent in gauge this against how many you think you actually sent. Do you know what spyware software she used? Since there is criminal activity in a court case in process if you can determine the actual software used against you may be able to send your cell phone into that company and have them give you a written statement that the software was installed on your phone.

Do you still have the cell phone with the spyware on it? Are you still using that handset? I would keep that handset safe and probably take the battery out of it and discontinue use so she can no longer track you or attempt to remotely log into the phone and uninstall the software.

Another way to answer the question “How do I know if my phone has spyware on it?” or to determine if someone has placed spyware on your phone is to look and see if your phone is acting abnormally. A good sign that spyware may be on your phone is if the screen lights up at random intervals. For example your phone is just sitting on the counter and then the screen light comes on like somebody is using it.

I'd love to hear more about your situation and I'm particularly interested in how you found out there was spyware on your cell phone.

Let me know, I hope you recover the money stolen from you.
-A.

How do I know if my phone has spyware on it

Does cell phone spyware work?

Does cell phone spyware work?

Dear Aden, ask@askaden.com

I saw your posts on “does cell phone spyware work?” I can give you a definitive answer to the does cell phone spyware work question and the answer is yes!

Does cell phone spyware work? HELL YES!!! I did not catch my husband cheating, Im not Sandra Bullock, I’m not married to Jesse James or Tiger Woods but yes does cell phone spyware work? Yes it does!

I did not use cell phone spyware to track my husband or wife, I used on on the phone of my 13 year old daughter. I dreaded installing it, and would have never done it if I was not terrified about potential drug use, it worked and I can now back off on checking up on her but I am leaving it on her phone so I can check in from time to time.

Here are some of the highlights of how the software help me as a parent.

Does cell phone spyware work? – I found out my 13 year old daughter was being pressured by a 19 year old boy who was trying to get her to hang out at his apartment. My daughter was on the verge of going over there and the spyware allowed us to confront the 19 year old (my husband drove over there) and our daughter without a problem. We told her we heard from”friends” that he was harassing her. The plan worked and I feel like we saved our daughter from a predator. If he ever contacts her again we will know about it.

Does cell phone spyware work? We thought our daughter was ditching a homework club to go to the park and use drugs, it turns out she was not. I hate that we spied on her, but we love her and we were worried. I am so grateful that she was telling the truth.

Does cell phone spyware work? Yes, we are not checking her phone regularly now, but its nice to know we can quickly find her via GPS if she does not come home.

If you have a teenager cell phone spyware may be a resource to help you save your child from drugs and predators, the way my husband and I see it, its our phone and we pay the bill and the bottom line it we love her and want her safe until she is mature enough to fend for herself.
Does cell phone spyware work? YES IT SAVED OUR 13 YEAR OLD FROM A CREEP!

Aden, your blog really helped my husband and I, thanks!!!!

- Marisa

Do you think I should try using cell phone spyware like Mobile-Spy?

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

It is Pete again, thank you for responding to my question with your advice on whether or not my wife may be cheating http://www.askaden.com/2010/03/is-my-wife-having-affair-or-is-she-just.html

I agree with what you said and I hope she is not cheating or having an affair. I'm going to try harder to “start dating her more” and be more romantic. That being said, do you think I should get some of that cell phone spyware that other readers have written in about. I was online and looking at several cell phone spyware sites and found a company called mobile-spy. Do you think I should try using cell phone spyware to see if she is really going out with her friends from work?

Pete,

Dear Pete,

Hold off on the cell phone spyware for right now. I have heard that mobile-spy is a cell phone spyware product that works very well. But do you really want to go down that road? Sometimes installing cell phone spyware and any type of spying on your spouse can be the totally wrong thing to do. I know you have all kinds of questions floating around in your head, but rather than let them eat you alive try talking to your wife. I'm sure she loves you very much and is truly just going out with friends from work. Sometimes if you go digging for information even when you are using something like a cell phone spyware software you end up taking the information out of context. I don't think you are in a situation right now where you want to go listening in on your wife's cell phone calls. If you do install something like mobile-spy, what are the chances that you're going to end up spending hours of every day monitoring her phone waiting to catch her red-handed? Maybe for right now you should invest that time into finding ways to reconnect with your wife. I'm not trying to make you feel bad for wanting to install cell phone spyware on your wife's phone and I applaud you for having the guts to ask the question. But I think sometimes we just need a wake-up call and that things aren't as bad as we see them in our head. The last thing you want to do is install cell phone spyware and become completely paranoid with thoughts of your wife cheating on you or having an affair. Hold off on buying mobile-spy.

Thanks for the follow-up and good luck to you and your wife.

-A.

Is my wife having an affair or is she just sick of me?

Is my wife having an affair or is she just sick of me?


Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

Is my wife having an affair or is she just sick of me? How can I tell if my wife is having an affair. I started suspecting something was going on about six months ago when my wife who I never suspected of cheating before started spending more time with her friends from work. Her friends are women and she used to bitch about them constantly up until they became her best friends about six months ago. I am worried, we used to be at home every night now she is going out 2 or 3 times a week with her work friends. Is my wife having an affair or is she just sick of me? Is there anything I can do to tell if my wife is having an affair?

Pete



Dear Pete,
I have received the “Is my wife having an affair” question before and with the information you have given me I would have to say she is probably just a little bored. Maybe before you hire Magnum PI to hit the “Is my wife having an affair” case you could try turning up the heat on your relationship.
Give her some alternatives to going out with friends from work, ask her out on a date with you. Try to be more romantic and stoke the fires a little. If you try your best and she starts acting very weird, hides her cell phone calls, stays out late, changes her stories about what she was doing, then it may be time to ask the question, Is my wife having an affair. For now she may just be bored.
-A.

Does Cignal Spy really work?

Does Cignal Spy really work?


Dear Aden ask@askaden.com ,
I bought the Cignal Spy program...and still trying to figure out how to install it....do you know if it really works?
Brenda



Dear Brenda,
I have seen a demo of Cignal Spy but have not installed on any of our test phones. Are you using Cignal on a Blackberry, iPhone, or other device?
If at all possible could you post a comment on how well Cignal Spy works? You are not the only reader that has asked the question “does Cignal Spy really work?” Here are some of the other questions sent to Ask Aden about Cignal Spy…

Does Cignal Spy really work? – Can you really listen to calls?


Does Cignal Spy really work? – Can you really activate microphone (Turn phone into a bug)?


Does Cignal Spy really work? – Can you really intercept SMS Text Messages?

Anything you can let the Ask Aden readers know about Cignal Spy would be great!
-A.

Straight Commission - Should I take a sales job with no base salary?

Should I take a sales job with no base salary?

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

I need some advice about a job. I was a mortgage broker for 7 years and needless to say, things got quite hard 2 years ago. I have been out of work for over a year now and I am trying to break into business solutions sales (copiers and equipment) from companies like Ikon, Lewan and Xerox. I don’t have experience in that industry but I know I can be successful. I have been offered a sales position at a smaller company that is straight commission it’s a sales job with no base salary. Should I work for straight commission? Should I take a sales job with no base salary?

Any ideas?

Robert,


Dear Robert,

A sales job with no base salary is by no means ideal but I think taking this particular straight commission sales job with no base salary could be a huge benefit at this point in your career. Here are some of the benefits of taking the sales job with no base salary in this case.

• It will give you a title and business card in the industry. This will give you industry experience to get interviews with Ikon, Lewan and Xerox.

• Lewan, Ikon and Xerox don’t have to know you are currently working a sales job with no base salary, all they need to see is you have had great success in the industry.

• Juice up your straight commission, sales job with no base salary on your resume. Put a high income range you don’t need to say you are currently in a sales job with no base salary. The key is experience in the industry and now you have it.

• Put “do not contact” on your professional references. Ikon, Xerox and Lewan will be fine with you asking them not to contact your present employer because it could put your current position at risk. This way they never have to find out you were straight commission.

Take the sales job with no base salary, get a title, work hard but make finding a new job with a strong base salary and benefits your top priority. A sales job with no base salary should not be a long term placement.

Hope that helps,
- A.

Help!, My husband likes to smell my armpits.

Help!, My husband likes to smell my armpits.
Dear Aden,

Is my husband weird? He loves the way my armpits smell and asks me not to wear deodorant. I am not a super stinky person so I guess it is not that big of a deal but the thought of people being able to smell my armpits makes me nervous. Should I give in or tell him he is a freak for wanting to smell my armpits.

Becky.

Dear Becky,

Actually your husband is not a freak at all for wanting to smell your armpits. If you look at nature, humans really try to discount the power of pheromones. Your genetic code tells your body to produce pheromones, these pheromones are key in attracting a mate. Have you ever liked the smell of your husband’s shirt? Your husband is attracted to your armpits because the pheromones they produce make him go bonkers and force his body to want to have sex with you. Wearing deodorant not only covers up your pheromones but can cause a chemical reaction that changes them all together.

The fact that your husband wants to smell your armpits is a good thing, you obviously have very strong pheromones in your armpits. Maybe a good compromise is you could avoid the deodorant on weekends and when you are around him and just wear it to work or social setting where he’s not there. Just a thought…. either way whats the harm in letting him smell your armpits?
I bet for every man that reads this that thinks your husband is strange there is 20 that say him liking the way your armpits smell is normal.

-A.

5 Easy tips to be a better wife

5 Easy tips to be a better wife

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

I want to be a better wife. I have the best husband in the world. My husband is thoughtful and respectful and he loves me very much, whatever my needs are, he seems to really try hard to make sure I feel that I am loved. He is always doing great things for me by bringing the flowers, taking me get my nails done, writing love notes, cooking, cleaning, you name it, he does it.

I want to make sure he knows that I love him as much as he loves me. I've tried writing some notes and being extra sweet but I'm just not sure if I'm giving him all that I can. Do you have any suggestions on things a wife can do to make her husband more happy and feel more loved. Any tips you can provide would be great.

Thank you in advance,

Allison.



Dear Allison,

It sounds like you have a great relationship and that your husband is very happy and feels very loved. I am sure that he loves you at least as much as you love him otherwise he would not be going out of his way to do these wonderful things for you. The fact that you are thinking outside the box is great and I'm sure you have thought of many of these already, but here are a few tips that you may have overlooked.

Men and women are different and we express and show love in different ways, it's kind of like figure skating and ice hockey, yes we are both in the same arena, we are both wearing skates and we both love the Zamboni, but male romance and female romance can be quite different.

How to be a better wife tip # 1. An and easy way to be a better wife is to, make him look good in front of his friends. Nothing makes a guy feel better than a good solid boost to his ego. Try to think about ways you can be his own personal cheerleader and when he's around his guy friends say nothing but great things about him and what a stud he is, never bring him down in front of his friends.

How to be a better wife tip # 2. Another great way to be a better wife is to initiate sex more often. While women love flowers and notes or a thoughtful breakfast in bed, sometimes nothing says I love you to a man more than his woman coming-on to him and being aggressive sexually when he least expects it. Don't plan it and don't tell them it's for him, just come-on to him when he least expects it with no strings attached. Typically men associate love was more of a physical connection. I'm not saying we are not emotional creatures, but the satisfaction we get from sex and the physical side of our relationship with you is deeper than you think. Something that may make you feel you are being cheap and slutty may just make your husband think “wow I have the most amazing wife in the world” If you feel strange about bringing up something "dirty" tell him you had a crazy dream that you (fill in the idea you are afraid to try)'ed him and ask him if he would like that.

How to be a better wife tip # 3. Be a better wife by trying to embrace his male interests. For all those romantic comedies you watch together throw in a few action flicks. Do your homework about sports, ask him if he is going to watch the big upcoming game or fight and offer to watch it together. You may be bored stiff, or who knows you may like it, I can tell you this, when he went to get you flowers the flower shop was probably not his first choice of places to be.

How to be a better wife tip # 4. Sometimes being a better wife can mean trading your love notes for dirty talk. A common mistake that women make is telling their man they love and appreciate them in the same ways that they want to be told. Don't get me wrong love notes are great, but women often visualize what they would like to see in a love note and they write the same thing down on the note they are giving to their man. I am sure these love notes make the guy feel good, however, I can all but guarantee they don't get the same juices flowing for men that they do for women. The next time you think about writing a love note, write him a scandalous, naughty, sex fueled “I want you” note instead. It's simple, it's free, and all it takes is for you to step outside your comfort zone a little and I guarantee you have your man thinking about you all day long.

How to be a better wife tip # 5. A better wife asks herself what would he want. The next time you're buying yourself a gossip magazine, and you throw in a sports magazine or something that's related to his hobbies. If he loves his car, sneak out with it one morning and have a detailed. When it comes to guys sometimes the silliest little things can have the most lasting memories. Think about it, men are bombarded with messages from our media that tell us we are not sensitive enough. You can't turn on the TV without some commercial trying to train a man to be more sensitive to his wife's needs. Unfortunately for you the media doesn't care what a man wants, so it's up to you to figure it out. Ask your husband, what would he like, what would make him happy I bet you'll be surprised at how simple his answer is. When he tells you what he wants don't judge him and if it's within reason, give it to him. If you meet his needs, he will meet yours in spades.

Hope that helps,

-A.

I want to have sex with my neighbor.

I want to have sex with my neighbor.

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

I want to have sex with my neighbor. My name is Tory, I am 26, hot, fit and have no trouble at all meeting guys Im just too busy for a boyfriend right now. I look forward to a great relationship in a few years but just not now. Now, I want to have sex with my neighbor! Why do I want to have sex with my neighbor? Because, I work for a fast moving advertising company and I make great money but I am on the road a LOT. I have no interest in a boyfriend right now but would love to have sex more often without all the drama. I want to have sex with my neighbor because he seems perfect for the job, he is hot, he is single and I have seen him in the elevator of our building with hot girls so it really seems like he is just playing the field. What really gets me excited is he seems to want me too, he always smiles and yesterday he told me my running pants were “hot” and that I should be a fitness model. I don’t want to be his girlfriend or fiancé; I want to have sex with my neighbor, not marry him. I’m gone a lot and to be honest it would not hurt my feelings if we had sex and then I saw him with somebody else. As long as he was cool with it I would love to do it. I just don’t want it to get weird after.
My problem is that I want to have sex with my neighbor but I have no clue how to bring the subject up without seeming A. like a slut (Im not) or B. like I want to be his girlfriend.
How can I tell him, without asking him out on a date or embarrassing myself? Do you have a creative way I can bring it up?
Dear Tory,

Thanks for bring the “I want to have sex with my neighbor” question up. This is one of the most fun emails I have received at www.askaden.com.

Here is what I think would work:

The next time you see him alone in the elevator, simply ask with a smile “Where is the hottie? I always see you with hot girls.” If is answer is anything but “I’m gay”, “I’m married” or “I am in a relationship” tell him “I’m Tory, I am in apartment #(your apartment number) and I think you are hot so if you ever get stood up one night and need me to pinch hit for one of them, just let me know, I would be happy to fill in if I am in town, just slide your number under my door and I will call or text if I’m in town and available”.

I think that gets the point across, shows that you know what you want and I think that will really excite him without all the games of asking him out on a date.
Let me know how it goes,

-A.

Should I wear 2 bras?

Should I wear 2 bras?

Dear Aden (ask@askaden.com)
My problem is terribly embarrassing but I'm hoping you can help. I'm 23 now and ever since I was 15 I have been concerned about having small breasts. In high school I felt so self-conscious that I started wearing 2 bras, sadly I've been wearing two bras ever since. My old boyfriend who I had in college and I never really discussed it but I knew he knew I was wearing two bras.
I have been seeing a guy I really like for about two months now and my two bra secret is still just that a secret. I'm now totally freaked out that if things get hot and heavy with my new boyfriend he is going to learn that I'm wearing two bras and think I'm a psychopath. What should I do? Should I tell him? Should I just not mention it? Or should I stop wearing two bras altogether?
Thanks for your help,

Alice.



Dear Alice,

I feel your pain. I think the best thing to do is to stop wearing 2 bras and don't think so much about revealing your smaller breast size. There are bras on the market that claim to increase your breast size to full cups, like the Victorias Secret Bombshell Bra, but this is not the answer either. By walking around with a brawl that resembles a Kevlar vest and is thicker than this phonebook you are not that much better off than a poor girl wearing two bras. Now is the time for change, now isn't now is the time to embrace the real you, now is the time for one bra. I bet you'll be surprised that your new boyfriend probably cares a lot less about your breast size than you do, let him see the real you. You can't keep up this charade forever and it's doing your ego a lot of damage by wearing two bras not to mention I'm sure there is some chafing involved. Try living with the real you for a year or so, if after that your body image is still depressing you maybe take a look at plastic surgery, but I have a feeling the real you, the sexy, self-confident, hot, small breasted you is just dying to come out and you and your new boyfriend are going to love her.

-A.

Do you only fall in love once?

Dear Aden (ask@askaden.com)

I've been dating my boyfriend since high school. I was 13 and him 15. I've now graduated and I am 18 and he, 20.


It's always been me calling. Me making the plans. If he leave I beg him to stay. I don't leave him. Whether it's his fault or mine. I try to work it out. When I need to talk about my mess ups, I will for him even if it's uncomfortable, but he won't. He'll just shut me out and walk away and I know how he is, if I don't follow him, it's a definitely a break up. We broke up for a year. I talked to him every once in awhile, meaning I made the effort. When it was announced around our small town I had a new boyfriend, he finally started making plans for us. Since we've gotten back together, it's been back to me doing everything. All the calls, plans, starting any form of communication. When we weren't dating, I saw he tried to talk to other girls. It hurts because he tried with them but can't ever try with me. He says he loves me. So why is it that he tried with girls that weren't much, when I've done so much. When I've humiliated myself for him and acted like a fool?

I really believe you only fall in love once. The guy I was dating while we were broken up was perfect. Tried doing things romantic for me and actually listened to me. He treated me the way I treat my boyfriend. Great. I can't leave my long term boyfriend because he makes me feel amazing. I'm in love. No other guy has made me feel this way. I left the new boyfriend for him. I dated alot when we broke up. Being single isn't my problem, it's being scared of never feeling this way ever again. Never being truly in love again.



All in all Aden, I need your advice on my relationship.

It's heartbreaking Everyday knowing I care about losing him, and he walks away easily whenever angered. He won't hug me, kiss me, or comfort me on his own if I'm not already doing it. He's like this and I still absolutely love him.



[*]. How can I get him to call me/show affection/communicate?


I've asked him what he won't do. Asked what he will do.

Told him what I wanted. What I don't want.

Asked him what he wanted. Asked what he doesn't want.


-Fed^^



Dear Fed^^,
Sounds like this relationship is a lot of work for both of you. There are more demands and questions flying around than good times. You don’t only fall in love once. You are young and probably the best thing for you to do right now is just sit back, have fun and don’t stress so much. You are way to young to worrying this much. Spend more time with friends and less time with this guy and keep your options open.
-A,