How to get a date with an older woman

How to get a date with an older woman

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

My name is Chris, I'm 22 years old, have been in college for four years (I'm on a five-year plan) and I just got off for my last summer before I graduate. I'm working a good job as an intern at a marketing company, have a nice car or my own apartment. I just broke up with my girlfriend. This summer I want to focus on something that has been a fantasy of mine since high school. I want to know how to get a date with an older woman. There are few bars that I go to always have the hottest older women and I've never really had the guts to approach them. Is there anyway you can give me a few ideas on how to get a date with an older woman? My ideal woman would be hot, professional and 35 to 45 years old.

-Chris

How to get a date with an older woman

Dear Chris,

Thank you for your e-mail “how to get a date with an older woman” here are some things you may want to try this summer, good luck and I wish you all the best in getting a date with an older woman.

How to get a date with an older woman tip number one: approach them, one of the biggest problems that younger guys have when it comes to getting a date with an older woman, is a nervousness or fear when it comes to approaching them. What you need to realize is that you are not dealing with a level playing field. When it comes to making the first move, a sexy, powerful older woman although interested in you will most likely not make the first move due to the fact that it will be extremely embarrassing for her if a younger guy shoots her down. On the other hand, when the younger guy makes the first move, the older woman will typically handle the situation with grace and excitement at the fact that a younger man is showing so much interest in her. Even if she shoots you down and rejects your offer for a date, most likely she's going to do it with class and make you feel good in the process. That's one of the biggest keys to getting a date with an older woman, once you've realized that you are almost always in a win-win (you leave with a date, or get shot down with a complement) you will start approaching more older women and getting more dates, just don't be afraid to approach them.

How to get a date with an older woman tip number two: be direct and honest, older women have played and grown tired of all of the games that younger women play, when you approach an older woman for a date be direct with her and be honest. Don't waste your time and her time with silly indirect conversation. What I mean is, walk up to her, introduce yourself, let her know you like her style and that you would like to get to know her better. When it comes to dating an older woman you don't have to use those stupid excuses like “hey do I know you from my gym” or “do you work at my office” just be direct and tell her you couldn't help but noticing her and wanted to come over and say hi.

How to get a date with an older woman tip number three: be yourself and don't try too hard to impress her. Many times younger guys are intimidated by older women and they spend most of their time trying to convince the older woman that they are more mature than their years, they are super sophisticated, and are far more successful than they really are. Just because you think older men are more mature, more sophisticated, and super successful doesn't mean that's what the older woman is looking for. The fact of the matter is most older single men are complete jackasses and don't know the first thing about how to date a beautiful woman and the fact that you are trying so hard to act like them just makes your chances of getting a date with her a lot harder. Your best bet is to be yourself, be mature, polite and respectful but don't try acting like a 45-year-old man trapped in a 22-year-old's body.

Hope that helps, but may know if you need any more advice.

-A.

How to get a date with an older woman