Is Facebook bad for relationships?

Is Facebook bad for relationships?

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Is Facebook bad for relationships? I just broke up was an amazing woman who I really liked. She is beautiful, smart, fun and funny. She was everything I was looking for in a woman except there was one thing that I could not deal with, her seemingly separate life on Facebook. Am I crazy or is Facebook bad for relationships? Here's the situation with me and this girl; we met through friends and began dating things were going great but she was always posting everything she was doing to her Facebook account, everything she was doing except me. One part of me would get angry that every event I took her to was instantly public knowledge via her constant Facebook posts and the other part of me would get angry because she was fail to mention that she was going to these events with me. The other thing that makes me think Facebook is bad for relationships is that she seemed to see no problem with the fact that her ex-boyfriend's were friends with her on Facebook. Talk about annoying, here I was at the beginning of a relationship doing my best to impress this girl and I had to deal with all the tools she had dated before sending her messages via her Facebook account. Why can't people live normal lives without having to put every little thing they are doing on Facebook or Twitter. Am I crazy or is Facebook bad for relationships?

- Mike

Dear Mike,

Thank you for your e-mail “is Facebook bad for relationships” in your particular case I can't agree with you more. I have a feeling that Facebook ruins a lot more relationships than people realize and I can see your point that you do not want your
and personal life scrutinized by somebody's ex-boyfriend on Facebook. I think the real issue here was if she was mature enough to be in the type of relationship that you are looking for. I personally would never date somebody that posted everything about our relationship and what we were doing on Facebook and was still unwilling to break off the connection with her ex-boyfriend's.

Thanks for writing in, speak soon.

-A.