I've been dating my boyfriend since high school. I was 13 and him 15. I've now graduated and I am 18 and he, 20.
It's always been me calling. Me making the plans. If he leave I beg him to stay. I don't leave him. Whether it's his fault or mine. I try to work it out. When I need to talk about my mess ups, I will for him even if it's uncomfortable, but he won't. He'll just shut me out and walk away and I know how he is, if I don't follow him, it's a definitely a break up. We broke up for a year. I talked to him every once in awhile, meaning I made the effort. When it was announced around our small town I had a new boyfriend, he finally started making plans for us. Since we've gotten back together, it's been back to me doing everything. All the calls, plans, starting any form of communication. When we weren't dating, I saw he tried to talk to other girls. It hurts because he tried with them but can't ever try with me. He says he loves me. So why is it that he tried with girls that weren't much, when I've done so much. When I've humiliated myself for him and acted like a fool?
I really believe you only fall in love once. The guy I was dating while we were broken up was perfect. Tried doing things romantic for me and actually listened to me. He treated me the way I treat my boyfriend. Great. I can't leave my long term boyfriend because he makes me feel amazing. I'm in love. No other guy has made me feel this way. I left the new boyfriend for him. I dated alot when we broke up. Being single isn't my problem, it's being scared of never feeling this way ever again. Never being truly in love again.
All in all Aden, I need your advice on my relationship.
It's heartbreaking Everyday knowing I care about losing him, and he walks away easily whenever angered. He won't hug me, kiss me, or comfort me on his own if I'm not already doing it. He's like this and I still absolutely love him.
[*]. How can I get him to call me/show affection/communicate?
I've asked him what he won't do. Asked what he will do.
Told him what I wanted. What I don't want.
Asked him what he wanted. Asked what he doesn't want.
-Fed^^
Dear Fed^^,
Sounds like this relationship is a lot of work for both of you. There are more demands and questions flying around than good times. You don’t only fall in love once. You are young and probably the best thing for you to do right now is just sit back, have fun and don’t stress so much. You are way to young to worrying this much. Spend more time with friends and less time with this guy and keep your options open.
-A,
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