5 Easy tips to be a better wife

5 Easy tips to be a better wife

Dear Aden ask@askaden.com

I want to be a better wife. I have the best husband in the world. My husband is thoughtful and respectful and he loves me very much, whatever my needs are, he seems to really try hard to make sure I feel that I am loved. He is always doing great things for me by bringing the flowers, taking me get my nails done, writing love notes, cooking, cleaning, you name it, he does it.

I want to make sure he knows that I love him as much as he loves me. I've tried writing some notes and being extra sweet but I'm just not sure if I'm giving him all that I can. Do you have any suggestions on things a wife can do to make her husband more happy and feel more loved. Any tips you can provide would be great.

Thank you in advance,

Allison.



Dear Allison,

It sounds like you have a great relationship and that your husband is very happy and feels very loved. I am sure that he loves you at least as much as you love him otherwise he would not be going out of his way to do these wonderful things for you. The fact that you are thinking outside the box is great and I'm sure you have thought of many of these already, but here are a few tips that you may have overlooked.

Men and women are different and we express and show love in different ways, it's kind of like figure skating and ice hockey, yes we are both in the same arena, we are both wearing skates and we both love the Zamboni, but male romance and female romance can be quite different.

How to be a better wife tip # 1. An and easy way to be a better wife is to, make him look good in front of his friends. Nothing makes a guy feel better than a good solid boost to his ego. Try to think about ways you can be his own personal cheerleader and when he's around his guy friends say nothing but great things about him and what a stud he is, never bring him down in front of his friends.

How to be a better wife tip # 2. Another great way to be a better wife is to initiate sex more often. While women love flowers and notes or a thoughtful breakfast in bed, sometimes nothing says I love you to a man more than his woman coming-on to him and being aggressive sexually when he least expects it. Don't plan it and don't tell them it's for him, just come-on to him when he least expects it with no strings attached. Typically men associate love was more of a physical connection. I'm not saying we are not emotional creatures, but the satisfaction we get from sex and the physical side of our relationship with you is deeper than you think. Something that may make you feel you are being cheap and slutty may just make your husband think “wow I have the most amazing wife in the world” If you feel strange about bringing up something "dirty" tell him you had a crazy dream that you (fill in the idea you are afraid to try)'ed him and ask him if he would like that.

How to be a better wife tip # 3. Be a better wife by trying to embrace his male interests. For all those romantic comedies you watch together throw in a few action flicks. Do your homework about sports, ask him if he is going to watch the big upcoming game or fight and offer to watch it together. You may be bored stiff, or who knows you may like it, I can tell you this, when he went to get you flowers the flower shop was probably not his first choice of places to be.

How to be a better wife tip # 4. Sometimes being a better wife can mean trading your love notes for dirty talk. A common mistake that women make is telling their man they love and appreciate them in the same ways that they want to be told. Don't get me wrong love notes are great, but women often visualize what they would like to see in a love note and they write the same thing down on the note they are giving to their man. I am sure these love notes make the guy feel good, however, I can all but guarantee they don't get the same juices flowing for men that they do for women. The next time you think about writing a love note, write him a scandalous, naughty, sex fueled “I want you” note instead. It's simple, it's free, and all it takes is for you to step outside your comfort zone a little and I guarantee you have your man thinking about you all day long.

How to be a better wife tip # 5. A better wife asks herself what would he want. The next time you're buying yourself a gossip magazine, and you throw in a sports magazine or something that's related to his hobbies. If he loves his car, sneak out with it one morning and have a detailed. When it comes to guys sometimes the silliest little things can have the most lasting memories. Think about it, men are bombarded with messages from our media that tell us we are not sensitive enough. You can't turn on the TV without some commercial trying to train a man to be more sensitive to his wife's needs. Unfortunately for you the media doesn't care what a man wants, so it's up to you to figure it out. Ask your husband, what would he like, what would make him happy I bet you'll be surprised at how simple his answer is. When he tells you what he wants don't judge him and if it's within reason, give it to him. If you meet his needs, he will meet yours in spades.

Hope that helps,

-A.